When entering school age, parents hope that the kids can study safely. Parents expect teachers to protect children during school time. Even so, sometimes, negative things are still happening to our kids, including bullying. 

Bullying is an aggressive behaviour carried out deliberately by someone with more power than the victim. Bullying can be in the form of physical or verbal actions carried out repeatedly.

It is not easy for all children to talk about their bad experiences at school. They tend to feel embarrassed, anxious about the family's reaction, afraid of disappointed parents and even think that the incident happened because of their mistakes. Therefore, it is necessary to provide detailed feedback when children tell stories about experiencing bullying.

You must do these once you know your child is a victim or bully:

1. For Parents of Victims 

• Not teaching reciprocity. Reciprocating is generally seen as crueller. Children need parents' help understanding the concept of replying correctly, which can cause problems. The idea of self-defence, instead of retaliation, needs to be emphasised. 
• Listen to the child. Always listen to the child and validate their feelings. Make them feel loved and think that you understand them. Avoid listening to children's stories, which can make them angry. 
• Support Children. Support the child emotionally. Tell them about the advantages they should appreciate. Make them understand that they are Valuable. Always be near your children and provide yourself with a place where they seek comfort and safety.
• Collaboration with School Staff. If bullying occurs, immediately consult the school's staff to resolve the issue. Especially if the child has trauma, they could refuse to go to school.

2. For Parents of Bullies 

• Accept and Not Confirm. Accept the fact that your child has committed a crime against someone else. Don't justify anything your child has already done. Allowing crime or mischief will further reinforce your child's misthinking that what he is doing will not have a harmful effect. 
• Clarification and Evaluation. Collect data on what your child has done and evaluate why this has happened. You can reflect on whether this happened because it mimicked your behaviour or immediately find the answer from which it imitates.
• Build Closeness in the Child. Build closeness with the child and listen to their opinions about what he has done. 
• Do Self-Introspection. After knowing the child's opinion, try to introspect yourself and analyse what makes your child bullying. Not a few bullies commit harmful actions. One of the reasons children become bullies is that parents often compare children or pay less attention to children's emotional needs. 
• Change the Wrong Way of Children's Thinking. Start changing the wrong way of your child's thinking. Teach him to empathise and accept differences as a matter of course. Parents could use the parable to talk to their children. "How would you feel when you were treated like that?" for example. If envy is the cause of child bullying, try to teach the child to accept it and help him find a way to overcome his feelings. 

Stop bullying requires the participation of parents, children, and school staff. Feel free to always take part in accompanying your children, Parents. Focusing on solving your child's problems is essential, and don't let the conflict get bigger.